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Theologies of imagination and theopoetics

Is God on Tinder?

a theopoetics of lust

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i have begun to create art

for art’s sake

i wish to never write again

a line that smells like

sweaty picket lines

or thick sharpie ink

on dollar tree poster board

hell.

i have begun again

to make my stanzas

shake and dance

my lines loop and

curve like your hair

beneath my dry fingers

and this thing shimmers

in the sunlight

it is a kind of

chatoyancy that i cannot

equate with cats or opal

because nothing shimmers

nothing shimmers

hell.

nothing matters but the

pools of universe you

foolishly call eyes

nothing matters but the

air that flows back and

forth from your lips

to mine

because when i pull back

and take a breath to admire

the self-sustained world we’ve

made the Spirit tickles my neck

and

it is good.


Falling Flower Petals

I want to reclaim purity.

the girlies

are going to hate me for

this one but

how can you expect

me to unwrite

the tradition that

is transcribed in

my bones

when i was 16

my mother told

me

“you know that

in our culture if

a man touches you,

no man will ever

marry you”

and that was my

sex ed

forget abstinence

education

the worst thing

that can come from

sex is not unplanned

life

it is decay

if you do not

control protect

hide and destroy

the lust will ruin you

can you imagine that?

premarital sex will not

only make you undesirable

it will make you unworthy

a reject

an outcast

a pariah

how can the radical girlies

expect me to


simply unlearn this

what if instead of

fear and shame we

highlighted beauty

“a man leaves his father

and mother and is united

to his wife and they

become one flesh”

they become one flesh

how did we manage to

let purity be overtaken by

Gnosticism

one day

my love

you will leave the comfort

of mother and father’s arms

and we will be united

your breath will become

mine and mine yours

until the expanding and

contracting of lungs

aches when we are

apart and we feel it in our

ribs


your ribs ash of my ash

and my ribs dust of your

dust

bone of my bones

one flesh

and we will be naked

before one another and

feel no shame and

what God has joined

together no person or

faulty theology can separate

i will love you without

shame beloved for these

fires that burn between us are

a mighty flame that cannot

be quenched or swept away

an all-consuming blaze that

brings us both closer to the Lord

not further away

for this passion is

pure

this passion is God-given


Falling Flower Petals

“My only two topics of conversation are sex and God”

“Spot the difference”

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Victoria and I have this weight on our backs. This is bizarre for me to write because most of the things that weigh me down sit on my chest. But this one, this one has found a nice spot tucked in between my shoulder blades and it pushes down on my thoracic vertebrae or something. Listen, I don’t have to tell you the details because you know it. You have seen the tape ripped off of one boy and stuck onto the next and the next and the next until the tape is just a worthless piece of plastic. You have seen the flower passed around the room with each person ripping off a petal until the symbol of beauty and romance and love is nothing more than another scrap for the compost bin.


Do I have to name the thing? Don’t you know the sticky sweet juices of the forbidden fruit so well? You have felt it on your fingers, you have smelled it on his breath. You have seen the beauty squeezed out of it, distorted and consumed in incognito browsers and anonymous chat rooms. Please don’t make me name the thing. It haunts me when I am with him.


When his delicate finger brushes my arm I cannot help but wonder if the tingle I feel in my spine is arousal or the fires of hell licking at my back. Can you see it more clearly now?


At the Easter Vigil mass I sat in the pew gnawing at my fingers, praying for the Lord to hear my pleas and absolve me. My friends talk about therapy like it saves. Do they not know? Have they found a way to purge the guilt from their bones? I need a divine pardon. Hell, I might need an exorcism. How did I manage to be bewitched by an incubus, to let it make my body its home? The mass ends and I all but beg the priest to hear the confession of a humble sinner.

“Please, Father. I want to receive communion tomorrow”

and he takes pity on me. He looks at me with worried eyes and I wonder if he is trying to figure out what broke me.

“Lust.”


The word beats it way out of my chest, scrapes the insides of my throat, and punches past my teeth into the room and I am suddenly aware of just how close everything is. How close this priest is to me. How close my flesh is to my soul. How close the atoms of the air are to one another to hold the world together.


How do you know you are in the presence of the Lord? I do not understand discernment. Consolation and desolation feel much too black and white to me, the God I know exists in gray spaces. Containers and categories are demonic, we know this.


I imagine Peter, James, and John must have flipped their frikken lids on that mountain. Since middle school I have been praying for God to show me His face, to let me hear His voice, to let me feel His touch.



Oh me of little faith. Was I testing the Lord? Was God mad at me? I thought that after nearly two years in Theologybot training I would have more answers. How do we reconcile the angry God of the Jews with socialist nonviolent Jesus? But I am still here with the same childlike questions.


“You are not a bad person. You do not have to keep dwelling on the things you did before. You can leave that behind and do better.”


I have confessed this thing before. Of course. They got me good. They convinced me that this urge is disgusting, demonic, impure, dirty. They convinced me that these urges make me these things too. As if you cannot separate the girl from the lust. It is all consuming and corrupting and it. will. tarnish. you. Your worth will decrease and decrease and decrease and you too will find that the beauty is gone and all that’s left is the corruptible, salissant, compostable body.


One of the best confessions I had came with a lot of judgment. He asked me do you do this sin alone or is it with someone else as if the nature of the thing could change the thing itself. As if one was better than the other. As if one could be purged but the other would corrode. He told me that all I had to do was put God first and everything else would fall in line. He berated me for not organizing my life around the Lord and I left with a charge. To be better. Do better. I was obviously the problem here. I was covered in guilt and shame, slick with the sticky remnants of forbidden nectar.


But not this time. He did not ask any questions. He let the word fill the room as I babbled on a list of other sins that he knew I was not repentant for.


There was no burning bush. No three angels approaching. No bells. No sky opening in a fiery rage. No calm, gentle wind. No tempest.


Instead, the world quietly began again. The Lord opened the gates to the garden, gestured for me to enter and said “take and eat.” He unraveled me and returned me to my mother’s womb where He knit me again, fearfully and wonderfully. When He finished He set down His needles and said “it is good.” and it was well with my soul.


When Victoria and I see each other it does not take long for the conversation to stroll past pleasantries and into the profane.


“How are things going with your new guy?” she asks and I know that this place is sacred. The weight lightens slightly and I allow my spine to slowly straighten out.


I ask her questions I could never ask anyone else.

We talk about this thing in hallways and park benches and bar tables and gray spaces because that’s where God is.


“Give me a clear sign, Lord. Speak to me in a way that I will hear you. Show me you in a way that I can see you. Give me ears to hear and eyes to see, Lord. I want to see you.”

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how

can i

love his

body

and

let him

love mine

without

being

crushed

beneath

the

g

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🌸Victor🌸

the most delicate

blush colored

petals rush around

as the soft, warm

breeze picks them

up from the ground

these flowers want

to be more white than

pink and I cover my

ice cream with my

hand lest I eat a bowl

of pollen | she does

not mind that I take

issue with all the

seating options and

we finally find a bench

I frown because it’s not

in the sun she chuckles

and says she does not

mind my indecision much

and freckles paint her

face lightly like God used

the speckling method on

her, flickering them across

her cheeks and under her

eyes with the roll of His

thumb across the brush |

we talk about things that

actually matter and I feel

light all over which makes

me realize that I had been

heavy all this time and had

no clue | she makes me wish

I was a photographer so I

could capture this moment |

her perched on the arm of

the bench | the petals rising

and falling swirling around her

the wind playing peek a boo

with her hair | she makes me

laugh past the wall of fatigue

that threatens to drag me under

taking my mood and spirit with it

but | I am light as a blush petal

around her and giggles find their

way out of my chest and as | we

roll down Comm Ave singing along

to my guilty pleasure music | I

feel the need to thank her for

listening thank her for being

thank her for her presence her

deep brown eyes that make you

feel so ridiculously tethered to this

temporal world | I think I’ve

experienced an inbreaking of the

Kingdom | I find it hard to believe

that it will be a place where all our

wounds are gone | we’ll be

healed by moments like these

and God will look at us with |

His deep brown eyes and say

“No, that’s really messed up.”

and | we will be healed

Twig Of Tree with Flowers

“so, how did you two meet?”

i have two options here

  1. “oh, you know the bastion of vice and sin that is Tinder”
  2. my cat was stuck in a tree and he so happened to be passing by and he scaled the tree, saved the cat, and then solved world hunger

i tend to default to humor

when I am uncomfortable with the truth

how do i say

i had given up on romance

when somehow something

far outside of my understanding

happened and after years of

dead end conversations and

late nights on Omegle

marred in shame and filth

i swiped right on a boy i would

never swipe right on

went on my first Tinder date and

wait

this version is far too simple

you must know that i was discerning

the single life

i had decided that perhaps

i would be best off putting my energy

into serving the Lord

but i was bored so instead

i put a quarter of my energy into swiping

on Tinder and Hinge and Facebook Dating

(all synonyms for purgatory)

he walked in and said my name

it wasn’t the way the ancestors

intended but i let it slide

he smiled and said hey

hugged me tighter than i

expected and said

“it’s so nice to meet you”


or something and how i wish

i could go back in time and bottle

this moment because on January 1st

1804 Ayiti became the world’s first

black republic and in 19?? a

Dominican woman named Alicia

met a French man who became the

father of Felix Valin who left his

family and began a new one with

his maid Gislaine and they had a

child named Pierre and in 198? he

came to the United States and married

a woman named *redacted* and they

had a child named *redacted* before

a woman named Carline swept Pierre

away and they accidentally ended up

with a daughter who was born

before her heart was fully formed

but to understand how many stars

had to align for this daughter to meet

this boy in a boba shop in 2023 you

must know that first Abraham begat Isaac

and Isaac begat Jacob and Jacob begat Judah

and more and more and more and – here’s the kicker –

Jacob begat Joseph the husband of Mary of whom

was born Jesus who is called Christ and

the French colonized half of Hispañola

and brought Catholicism with them which

fit quite perfectly with the religion

of the Tainos so when the boy told the girl

that he is Catholic but only goes to church

sometimes she thought

“I can work with that”

and as he sat across from her

light freckles splashed across his face

nervous hands gesturing and fixing

and adjusting and fidgeting

talking on and on and on about only

Lord knows what

a new geneology of possibilities

slowly unfolded

and they shall call it love


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I keep trying to write something that matters. Stop. Who gets to decide what does and does not matter?


I don’t feel like the right person to be writing about God. I barely know how to speak to God, how can I write something that would do Him any justice?


How did the church mothers and fathers know? How did they know that what they wrote was valid, useful, spiritual?


If I write about agape my pen shakes and the lines come out hesitant. Perhaps my hand is best used for eros. Maybe philia if I’m feeling bold. Holiness feels unattainable. There is nothing other about these wary scratches on sweaty paper. My writing belongs in the realm of the unconsecrated, it should be trampled underfoot and whispered into spit covered microphones at dive bars and library basement open mics. I would do far better there than in sacred places. My lips are far too unclean.


Imposter syndrome sneaks its way into the corners of my life that it doesn’t even make sense for it to be.


He cups my cheek with his hand and says “I love you” and I find myself peeling off layer after layer after layer of my skin, inspecting each bit trying to find the part of me that is worthy of such love.


“I’ll never be more loved than I am right now

Wasn’t holding you up, so there’s nothing I can do to let you down.

Doesn’t take a trophy to make you proud.

I’ve never been more loved than I am right now”


Why are there so many Christian songs about not deserving God’s love? Because we have spent so long entrenched in the world of unworthiness. Oh we, petty dishonorable disgusting humans. How dare we fix our lips to cry out to the almighty, all-powerful God who should not even waste His time hearing our cries but does. But does. Unworthy as we are, God loves us.

“Oh the overwhelming, never-ending, reckless love of God.

Oh, it chases me down fights ‘till I’m found

Leaves the 99.

I couldn’t earn it.

I don’t deserve it.

Still, you give yourself away.

Oh the overwhelming, never-ending, reckless love of God”


He tells me I am beautiful.

“But my thighs”

He tells me I am gorgeous.

“But I look like a potato”

He tells me I am amazing.

“But I’m so boring”

He tells me I am good.

“No, I’m not good but I try.”

He tells me that I am so smart.

“But I’m not an academic. I’m not a scholar. You should see the people at my school.”

He tells me I’m perfect. Just perfect.

I shake my head.


and I can’t imagine how the disciples must have felt when Jesus told them “Amen, amen, I say to you, whoever believes in me will do the works that I do, and will do greater ones than these” right after they expressed their doubt, fear, and lack of confidence in the way.


“What do you mean you have a weak faith life? You’re one of the most religious people I know?” and I don’t have the heart to tell him that I don’t think God hears me anymore. I don’t have the heart to tell him that I feel like the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel except instead of a weak, limp finger barely reaching for the Lord I feel like God is just across the room and I am running, stumbling and falling like white people in horror movies trying to get to the Lord. but when I look down I find that I am on a treadmill. Running, chasing, stumbling, falling but going absolutely nowhere.


“Dear God

I've been trying awful hard to make You proud of me

But it seems

The harder that I try, all the harder it becomes

And I feel like giving up

Most of the time

Dear God

I've been chasing their approval and it's killin' me

And I know

The more I try to prove

All the less I have to show

And I'm stuck inside my head

Most of the time

But if I pray a little harder

If I follow all the rules

I wonder, could I ever be enough?”


Of all the guys I matched with on Tinder, he is the only one who didn’t ask “what’s theology?” He reminds me of why I decided to study theology in the first place. He keeps me rooted in the real world outside of Chestnut Hill and Brighton and the crushing gears of academia. We rarely ever talk theology but somehow his arms are a space for theological reflection. He asks “what does that mean” and “why do we believe” and says “I don’t get that” and I am forced to step off the treadmill for a moment and ask myself why am I running. He traces my lips with his thumb and runs his hand across my arm and pushes my hair behind my ear and talks to me with a sense of love and admiration that I thought I would never feel and eschatological hope feels less like a concept and more like a reality. He reaches a hand out and pulls me from the depths of self-deprecation and I wonder: if I can feel such a deep warmth from laying in the arms of a mere mortal, how much more will I be loved in the Kingdom? How much more will I be healed in the presence of love incarnate love Divine?


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His hot breath on my ear sheds a different light on heaven.




In his book Prayer for Beginners Peter Kreeft says something along the lines of “in heaven, praying is better than sex.” I always get irritated when people use “better than sex” to describe how good something is. As a virgin, I feel a little left out. That’s like me telling a toddler that this hot fudge sundae is better than getting wine-drunk on a Friday night with friends you haven’t seen in a while. It’s not helpful. Peter Kreeft must have known that at least half his audience had no clue, on an experiential level, what he was talking about.


I am terrified of old demons coming out of the closet when I am ministering to people. I have filled my head and heart with all these ideas and concepts and theories and theologies that have been weaponized to keep people thinking in a very specific way. I have been trained in a thought bubble that prioritizes fear and order over love and tolerance. I have all of these moving boxes that I am using to dismantle harmful ideologies brick my brick but I do. not. know. where to put the boxes so they do not haunt me in my sleep or jumpscare those I minister to.


An old friend once told me that there would be no romance in heaven. No food. No friends or relationships. I would know you and you would know me but we wouldn’t care who the other was because none of those things matter in heaven. We wouldn’t hunger. We wouldn’t lust. We wouldn’t want for human relationships. I would see my husband and know that he is my husband but I simply would. not. care. We would spend all of forever singing holy, holy, holy with all the angels and Saints and so we’d be too busy to care about other people.


Respectfully, no thank you.


I have heard that idle hands are the devil’s playground. Lord, please free my people from the shackles of using the Bible to justify and uphold demonic capitalism. It makes me sick. And tired. I am sick and tired of the toiling of my people. I am sick and tired of grinding ourselves into a pulp and then asking ourselves why we aren’t strong enough to grind more. There better not be no form of business in heaven. You hear me, God? I’ve had enough. We want rest.


Patricia Beattie Jung writes, “Theologians have for centuries imagined heaven as completely bereft of sexual desire and activity. Traditionally, most theologians—Augustine and Thomas Aquinas among them—speculate that we will remain distinctly male or female in risen life, but they retain little place for other aspects of sexuality in heaven. They argue that in risen life while some transformed experience of gender difference may abide, sexual attraction and joy will be left behind… sexual activity is one of the most decisive ways humans draw near to each other, “quite physically, quite literally,” as theologian David Jensen puts it,” then it might well be a key way we draw near to, commune with, and make room for one another in glory…The traditional view denies that God intends to heal and restore this way of relating to each other. But several contemporary theologians have begun to suggest that our sexual desire—just like the rest of nature—is ‘capable of being gradually transformed and ordered by grace so that we are brought to flourishing starting from where we are.’”


And I am pushed back into a conversation I had with my friend Victoria on a park bench. I told her candidly about a sexual encounter that left me spiritually wounded and she heard me with God’s ears.


I cannot understand a heaven in which all the wounds inflicted upon us on earth are not addressed and made right. There is sex in heaven not only because it is beautiful, but also because it has hurt so many of us. Once again God has given us a gift so precious and beautiful that, in awe and fear of its beauty, we made it unrecognizable and ugly.


After a mix of Catholic guilt and cultural fear mongering rendered me petrified of sex, a sexless heaven made a lot of sense. It’s a thing people do, flinging flesh against flesh for the sake of filthy pleasure.


but.


a sneaky smile dances across his face and i ask “why are you looking at me like that?” but I know. and unimaginably the pure bright blinding picture of heaven that I once held onto so tightly begins to shift out of focus.


God gave us free will and Mystery so we wouldn’t get too comfortable with our conjectures about him.

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He snakes his hands around my waist, squeezes my squishy hips tightly, plants a soft kiss in the delicate space between my neck and my shoulder and I am humbled. All conclusions about God and Heaven turn to mush and I


melt

into

his

arms

the Mystery